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Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011, 07:50 am
Okay, Now I'm Asking For Me

I really hate to do this.

You guys are all the best, most supportive, most wonderful fans any musician could want, and the best friends anyone could hope for. You have helped me when I've been down, and shared in my triumphs when I've been up, and kept me sane on this ludicrous adventure, and I love you all so much for that.

I do have the best job in the world. I do. But, in this economy, what I'm doing simply isn't paying off. This last year, financially, has been utter hell.

I am getting my ass kicked by bills right now. I'm trying to finish two songs so I will at least have rent paid, and they're not coming easily. Hell, I've been working on one for over two weeks now. So much for The World's Fastest Filker. I've only got three gigs between now and Memorial Day. I've been trying to get other gigs, and no one's calling me back. I'm waiting on frickin' TomBoat. I'm trying to get a handle on Herbert West, which has become the monster project from hell. I've got other stuff I want to write, but I have things I must get done, and they're all getting in each other's way.

I'm talking to a lawyer about trying, again, to get Social Security Disability income. No idea how long that will take. I already borrowed money from a good friend, and it's going to be awhile before I can pay that back. I thought it would be enough to get me through the month. It wasn't. I don't want to borrow anymore. I feel slimy doing so.

And, last night, I noticed a brand-new, lovely, wavy crack extending three-quarters of the way across my windshield. Looked a whole lot like a last straw.

I need help.

I know you guys are hurting as badly, or worse, than I am. And I wish I could do something about that as well. I feel miserable about asking this of you. But I need help.

If you can spare something, please, that would be excellent. And, in return, you can have all I have to give. This Donate button right here:







will take you to a special folder that has all of my albums and live shows. Same files, copied directly from the Double Secret merch folder. Download what you want, whatever you think is fair.

I am so sorry for asking this of you. I feel as if I've failed, big-time. And you have all given so much. But right now, I just can't do it alone. I'm sorry.

Thank you.

ETA: Oh my god.

I am flabbergasted by the help and support you are offering. I love you all so damn much. Thank you. Thank you.

ETA2: Again, thank all of you so, so much. My rent is paid, and I'm getting a handle on other stuff, and my nerves are still wracked but they're loosening to the point that the first song I must get done is making more sense now. Thank you, thank you.

In comments, I see that some people are not getting sent to the download folder. If you are one of those, PM me, and I'll PM you back with the URL.

ETA3: Okay, I'm good. :) No, really. I cannot thank you all enough. Your generosity is astonishing, and it will be remembered and returned. I'm going to keep the folder up for a week or two, in case anyone wants to download some more or you're on dial-up or somethin' like that. But you have helped more than you can possibly know, both financially and spiritually. So many thanks, so much love to you all.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 01:17 pm (UTC)
desert_dragon42

~hugs~ You should never feel bad about asking your friends for help. It's what we do. You've given so much joy with your music over the years. I think I've already purchased just about your entire catalog!

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:20 pm (UTC)
filkertom

[hugs] Can't help it. I'm trying to make it on my own, really, and I know everyone's hurting. Thanks so much.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 01:20 pm (UTC)
rivkaesque

You helped me out a lot when I was hurting. You may not even remember this, but I first heard your music at a con that I had quite literally spent my last discretionary income for the quarter to go to. (Meaning, everything left was for food, rent, end electricity.) I told you after the concert how much I loved your songs, and asked if there was a way for me to order them once I got back on my feet. You told me to go ahead and download anything I could find for free, just purchase the songs once I had the money.
I did, and your songs helped cheer me up while I was jobhunting and failing to find anything.
I don't have much right now, but it seems only fitting you get my 'fun stuff' budget for the month. Good luck.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:20 pm (UTC)
filkertom

I actually do remember that. :) And thank you so, so much.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 01:22 pm (UTC)
alverant

You haven't failed. You've given us so much over the years. I donated what was left my PayPal account and when the next infusion of cash arrives, I'll donate again. (I don't keep much money in there, enough to cover what I donate to podcasts.)

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:21 pm (UTC)
filkertom

Dude, just the fact that you care helps. Thank you very much.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:01 pm (UTC)
catsittingstill

I made a small donation and will check to see if I can donate more this month.

You've been making wonderful music, and I've gotten a lot of entertainment out of it. If I could give you what that entertainment has been worth to me, the bills wouldn't be a problem.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:21 pm (UTC)
filkertom

Oh, my dear. [hugs] Thanks a lot.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:01 pm (UTC)
ladypoetess

Signal boosted all over the place, in as many ways as I could think of. When I know what my budget will allow me to give, you'll have it.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:21 pm (UTC)
filkertom

You're a darling, and thanks. [hugs]

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:24 pm (UTC)
hms42: winshield...

Do you happen to have glass insurance? (Its optional in NY and I am not sure what your state requires). They might cover that cost. (Ask, the worst they do is say no.)

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:22 pm (UTC)
filkertom: Re: winshield...

I do not. There are a couple of places right down the road that should be able to fix it, though. I'll stop by later today.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:25 pm (UTC)
hms42

I will signal boost this. (And a payment has been sent.)

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:22 pm (UTC)
filkertom

Harold, you are a wonder. And I don't think I show enough how I appreciate you. [big damn manly hugs] Thank you, my friend.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:29 pm (UTC)
tarsa

Tom, 2010 has been a living hell for a lot of folk, including jmthane and myself. After a three~year battle, sixteen months of those with an attorney, I *finally* was placed on SSDI. During that time, my wife lost her job twice. We had to beg money from several friends during that time, so I'm right there with you with feeling slimy asking for help repeatedly.

You *are* doing the best you can~~let your friends help you. From what I've observed of you over the years, you wouldn't hesitate to help them. Things will improve~~right now, you do what you need to do to help yourself. I just wish I had some $ to pay forward to you.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:09 pm (UTC)
elisabeth

I can echo this; my war for SSDI benefits pegged in at just over two years, all but the first three months with an attorney. In the interim I lost my home and most everything else I had of value. Don't give up, Tom... the battle IS winnable, it just takes persistence and some legal coaching. And time, lots and lots of precious, agonizing time. I'll lob what I can to you, certainly deserved for all the laughs your music and wit have provided.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 02:37 pm (UTC)
tandw

Donation coming, but I wanted to tell you why first. I think I first heard you at an OVFF...1987 or so? Maybe '88. Anyway, I remembered the name and the sense of humor, so I picked up the "Who Let Him In Here?" tape the first time I saw it, got "Domino Death" when it came out, and a couple of the early CDs. Then I gafiated for a while. Fast forward to a couple of years ago. I'm congoing again, this time with family in tow. My daughter hears you and is amused & entranced (can't imagine where she got her sense of humor from). She pulls out my old tapes & discs, doesn't quite wear them out, and now she and I sing your songs to each other. So this is payback for father/daughter bonding. Thank you.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:25 pm (UTC)
filkertom

Thank you. :) It's scary how long I've been doing this -- I've mentioned that, a couple of years ago, a rather hot young lady carrying a baby told me she was raising the kid right, on my music -- just as she had been. Freaked me out slightly. [hugs]
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Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:45 pm (UTC)
filkertom

And you are a gentleman and a scholar, Zander -- thank you so much. [hugs]

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:08 pm (UTC)
delazan

Dude, we all need help at one point or another in our lives. Besides, I owe you at least five bucks for all the enjoyment I've received from "Cat Macros" and your LJ posts over the years. I only can afford five bucks right now, but if I ever win the lottery or write a best seller, you are most certainly one of the people who will benefit.
-L.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:16 pm (UTC)
per_solo

Tis funny...Tom's on my "Lottery" list too.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:16 pm (UTC)
per_solo

Tom, you are wonderful, and I know you know this. As you said, times are rough for all, but we are a community, and all friends will do what they can.

I'm going to donate a little to the button above. I may snag an album. However, with your permission, I'm going to Podcast to boost the signal and include 3 songs from you. I figure that I want to show the range..so if you have 3 in mind, let me know. Otherwise, I'll go with something like "A Boy and His Frog", "Something Positive" (If that one is ok...I can see a few reasons it might not be), and...something. Along with a link to your this journal entry.

*HUGS*

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:29 pm (UTC)
filkertom

[hugs] I'm very flattered, ace. And I thank you for the signal boost. Whatever three you think would work. You do know I'm not going to InCon this year (because of ConTata), right? However, I really want to be at DucKon.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:16 pm (UTC)
lothie

There's nothing wrong with asking for help, dude.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:30 pm (UTC)
filkertom

[hugs] Yeah, but I try not to unless it's really bad. I've seen boy-who-cried-wolf and boy-who-mooched-until-it-hurt-and-beyond a few times too many. Thanks.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:16 pm (UTC)
shockwave77598

You introduced me to Reaper and how to get back into music again after a very very long absence. So this is for you in thanks for your time, creativity and willingness to help us newbs.

Don't ever change.

Thu, Mar. 10th, 2011 03:30 pm (UTC)
filkertom

Well, clothing. ;) You're welcome, and thank you. (hugs)