Tom Smith

women are trained from puberty to be wary of men who approach them for fear of being raped. the things women have to do in order to feel safe is a huge list. HUGE. I mean really, have you ever thought about what YOu do to keep from being raped? Seriously, have you ever had to walk home, or even between college campus buildings in pairs or groups to ensure you don’t get attacked by some random guy? Have you ever been at a party or a club and had to have your hand over your drink the whole time to keep someone from putting something into it. Do you carry a whistle around in your pocket or on your keys in case you get attacked? Do you stiffen when you get approached by someone you don’t know? Are you automatically afraid when someone stops to help you on the side of the road, even if they’re a cop? Do you carry pepper spray, mace, or a tazr for fear of being attacked, or because you already have been and want to make sure it never happens again?

Have you considered acknowledging that wall to her and apologizing for spooking her? Let ting her know that you understand her apprehension and that you have no intention of harming her in any way, while keeping your distance. And then, if she still has the wall up, let her know that you understand, and then LEAVE HER ALONE. A woman has a right to protect herself, even if you do mean her no harm. And frankly, women NEED to protect themselves.

If this only happens when you're wearing your construction gear, then dump the gear.