Wed, May. 2nd, 2012, 08:34 pm
Dunno Why, But I Suddenly Felt Like A Good (No, Really, A Good) Cry
If you haven't seen it, warning: Possibly triggery stuff, e.g., attempted suicide, but it all works out at the end.This entry was originally posted at http://filkertom.dreamwidth.org/1513527.html. You may comment there or here, although LJ tends to have a livelier conversation at this time.
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 12:46 am (UTC)
This is one of my favorites of her more recent work. It -is- good for a good cry and when you're just angry at how the world makes you feel.
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 01:37 am (UTC)
The first time I saw this video, I didn't sleep. How the HELL did she manage to replicate my LIFE in there???
It is one of my favorites of her work.
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 06:31 am (UTC)
The ACES score seems to assume that the only people who ever hurt a child emotionally and/or physically are the child's immediate family. What about a case where the child's family life is fine, but the child is being hurt by other children, with the complicity, and sometimes even the active participation, of the other adults (teachers, clergy, etc.) in a child's life?
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 06:41 am (UTC)
The long form (you can track it down if you follow links from that article) also assumes that male/female are the only genders, and seems to not realize that you can have single parent families without divorce/imprisonment or death.
But the real glaring error is that the section on domestic violence *only* covers the father mistreating the mother.
So yeah, there are a *lot* of holes in it.
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 04:05 pm (UTC)
I remember a story about a child of a single parent overhearing her kindergarten teacher saying something about "such a pity she's from a broken home". She mentioned it to her mother, saying, "What does that mean? Our home isn't broken - it works just fine!"
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 03:05 am (UTC)
I lived that video. Thank you for sharing.
Thu, May. 3rd, 2012 08:28 pm (UTC)
I could have used that song during the hell that was my school life. Between the bullying I went through at school and the emotional abuse I went through at home from my father (he's much better now, he hasn't had a drink in almost sixteen years, though that doesn't really change my past all that much), and the undiagnosed mental health problems I had, I'm surprised I never tried to kill myself. To be totally honest I did contemplate it several times but I never tried it, I guess I didn't want to give any of my school tormentors the satsifaction of thinking that they had driven me that far.
Too many kids go through things similar to those in the video, and it is up to all of us to make sure that kids come through the trauma and realize that it does get better. It might take a while but it does happen eventually.
Sat, May. 5th, 2012 04:06 pm (UTC)
Yeah. My beloved lived that. With the help of tribe, she got out... she's busy healing now, but I think it's going really well... I spoke to her just an hour ago, and the tears are pretty much gone, and our fairy godmummy, whose name you'd recognise if I told you, says there is much laughter now.... yeah. Tears of catharsis. She *went* there... and came through... and hopefully we'll get to that final scene, where there's a little girl to give a keepsake bear to.