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Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009, 02:28 pm
DBAD

Very much in keeping with the previous post is fragbert's excellent little manifesto (h/t hughcasey):
... [M]ost everything that Jesus taught can be distilled down to one simple, if not a bit vulgar, statement: "Life is hard, we're all in this together, don't be a dick."

I think the world might be a better place if people stopped wearing clothing and jewelry with "WWJD" plastered on it, and replaced it with "DBAD".
  • Let a car into traffic. She's been sitting there for a while and she probably has to be somewhere soon, just like you do.
  • Smile at someone. They're probably having a shitty day and could use some positive energy. If they're not having a shitty day, it won't hurt to keep their good mood going.
  • Thank the barista, the cashier, the bag boy, the lunch lady, the crossing guard, the guy that empties your office trash, and the telephone operator. I don't care if it's their job to serve you. We all serve someone.
  • Find someone (or more than one) on your LJ Friends List that you haven't commented to in a while. Post a comment letting them know that you're glad they're on your List.
  • Make it a point to compliment someone today. On anything. Everyone has something worthy of praise and admiration.
  • Tell *everyone* you love exactly that. Life is short, shit happens, and the people who are important to us need to know they've had a positive effect on someone else's life. It's entirely possible that our own lives are measured solely on how we affected others.
Here's today's project: if you're in agreement, and are so inclined, post "DBAD" in your LJ today, with a link back to this entry.
ETA: I seem to have to emphasize: I didn't write this. fragbert did.
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Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 06:50 pm (UTC)
sidebernie

Hear, hear.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 06:53 pm (UTC)
johno

I need to find the transcript, but I once saw the great philosopher George Carlin discussing The 10 Commandments.

Boiled down they mean: Be cool to each other.

However DBAD is more likely to get through to people.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:06 pm (UTC)
bryanp

Love it.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:06 pm (UTC)
controuble

I haven't told you how before much I appreciate your posts, but I do. Thank you and please consider yourself smiled at. :)

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:09 pm (UTC)
voiceofkiki

Don't be a dick has infamously been the motto of Wil Wheaton. It's at the top of his blog, it was the subject of his keynote speech at PAX 2007, and it's on a shirt that he sells. I own the shirt and wear it frequently.

I think it's a good idea for life.

I frequently remind people that when Jesus was asked what is the basic idea of all religion, he replied, "Love God and love your neighbor." I think too many people forget the latter half of that equation.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:31 pm (UTC)
annearchy: +1 gajillion

This expands very nicely on the Golden Rule.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:36 pm (UTC)
davidkingsley

As Bill and Ted said, "Be excellent to each other, and party on, dudes!"

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 07:51 pm (UTC)
shala_beads

I designed a couple bead patterns for beady people to make bracelets!

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:03 pm (UTC)
johnhedtke: Way to be!

This is really nice stuff, Tom. Well spoke.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:10 pm (UTC)
morpheus0013

"Don't be a dick" has always been my one rule for the Universe. This is what I like about Jesus, even as a non-Christian. NOT BEING A DICK IS THE POINT.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:17 pm (UTC)
redneckgaijin

I would do, if he hadn't had the first bullet point item be something I not only completely disagree with, but which is a major driving peeve of mine.

Stopping traffic behind you to let someone pull out helps one person while annoying twenty. It's made even worse when (in my experience about 50% of the time) the person being let into traffic pulls straight forward and waits for the next lane to stop so s/he can make a left turn. If it's an 18-wheeler I can understand and sympathize... but if it's Soccer Mom Alone in a Ford Taurus... well, the kindest thing I'd like to do to such people is buy them a local road map and demonstrate that yes, there ARE alternate routes to their destination that can be reached by turning RIGHT out of the parking lot, thank you.

In moving traffic, say on a freeway, there hell yes you let people in, give people room when they signal lane changes, etc. But in thick traffic, when one or both cars are stopped, the kindest thing you can do for the greatest number of people is to get out of the way- get to where you're going and PARK, already.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:23 pm (UTC)
janetmiles

On the other hand, if I have to stop at a red light and I have a choice about blocking driveway where someone is trying to get out into traffic, I will stop the few feet farther back to let the person into traffic.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:31 pm (UTC)
sethb

TNH answered the question: JWRTFM.

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 08:46 pm (UTC)
mouser

When you say "Thank You" please meet thier eyes. Actually, do that WHENEVER you speak to them. It really helps.



Actually, I harken back to simpler times, and a phrase that was impressed upon me in my youth:

"Be Excellent To Each Other"

Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 09:06 pm (UTC)
alverant

Great idea. I would make it "safe for the children" by changing it to "Don't be a jerk." DBAJ